Unconscious

Unconscious processes dominate the inner psychological events. Nobody could constantly think of everything that is required for regulation and decisions about significance. If there were no unconscious inner world, we could not have any inner processes which surprise us and expand or alter our image of ourselves. Our self-control would be completely overburdened if we …

I practice personal responsibility in the form of being affected, when it is clear to me that statements about the world, i.e. about the circumstances, other people or the company, are my statements about the world. Perceptions are not perceptions about the world, but attributions. Therefore, if I experience someone as intrusive, then it is …

I exercise personal responsibility in the form of acting when I experience myself as the creator of the respective situation: “I did that well!” (instead of “That worked out well!”), “I want that!” (instead of “That must be done now!”), “I am making myself insecure (instead of “I am insecure!”). Therefore, one experiences oneself as …

The regulation of needs is one of the eight guiding processes of psychodynamics. The decision each person must make consists of the following question: “What do I (don’t I) want?”. The dynamics of a psychological system requires the continuous regulation of your own desires. If you have access to your needs, you can feel comfortable …

The ability to inhibit one’s impulses and needs is acquired by the psyche in the first years of life. Without this ability, a person is unable to socially co-exist. The sentence, “if you don’t give me what I want, I will throw myself to the floor and scream“, or acting in such a way, is …

People are often engaged with the guiding distinction of revealing/concealing because they wish to make a good impression. It is, or seems, important to them what others think about them or see in them. Therefore, they try to shape what part of themselves is visible and what is not. However, one only has part control …

Why do people attempt to conceal things? Why are we not content to be what we are? Why this effort? On a verbal level, this is easily explained. If everybody expressed all that was going around in their head, it would quickly destroy all relationships they have. Complete honesty is not a viable concept. In …

The distinction between concise and diffuse experience is of particular significance, as it maintains a shadowy existence within psychology and counselling. At the same time, however, it has great significance and effectiveness in enabling change during practical work. Self-perception is concise when the perceived can be differentiated and described with one’s own words (rather than …

Diffuse – as opposed to concise -becomes self-awareness when one or more of the following phenomena can be observed. Someone evaluates his experience. Very often it looks like this: “I am in good form, I am not well!” With this statement, there is no information given about what someone experiences or how they feel about …

No psychological system is viable without the ability to negate. Important differences exist in whether the negation happens chronically or selectively and whether it refers to the behaviour or to a person. The difference between the two sentences, “You are never the daughter you should be!” and “I do not want you to come to …