If the inner dynamic of a person is characterised by having coupled one (or more) needs firmly with an unpleasant affect, then it is rather obvious that in the moment in which the need is once more perceived, there will be a probability that it is “shrugged off”. Those who take in sweet and bitter …
The more automatically clients react with certain behavioural or experiential responses (“then I simply had to …!”), the more important it is to help them, in a counselling technique way, to view these automatic responses as the result of unconscious schemata. Often, clients can only disengage from such reaction habits when they understand how they …
There are forms of counselling which refrain from explaining anything to their client. We consider this to be wrong. Those who understand themselves will be more autonomous and can develop more self-support. One does not have to make the client find out everything by himself. One can, and should, introduce into the counselling dialogue hypotheses, …
“What did you experience just then?”. The pure experiencing is just as insufficient for change processes as pure understanding. When the client, in the counselling, makes new emotional experiences (for example in an experimental individual counselling session <a href=”https://metatheorie-der-veraenderung.info/wpmtags/experimente-einzelberatung/”>Experiment</a>), then it is important to process this experience with him reflectively, and to integrate it. If …
Substitute feelings have the function of holding another impulse or another feeling away from self-perception. Whether a feeling has such a function, can be checked by the counsellor by means of a few questions: Have I experienced this feeling or behaviour pattern frequently in the client (the more frequently, the more probable that this is …
Every problem is a solution (for something not yet known in the client). But not every problematical behaviour or feeling is a solution to the present situation. This is important because the question “What is this good for?” has even found use in everyday communication. If we don’t differentiate here, it can appear cynical. Who, …
Every comprehension renews itself, again and again. This is because comprehension alters the psychological process and thus requires renewed comprehension. Something, which up until now was plausible, can become implausible and requires a new process of making plausible or it must remain in the implausible. In practice, someone wishes fervently to at last be recognised …
There is not ‘a’ correct comprehension. Comprehending means giving sense to something, making it plausible or leaving it rest in the abundance of the implausible – who can read hieroglyphics? Reframing describes a counselling technique which offers the client a different way of comprehending. One also uses the guiding process ‘Comprehension’. The client can choose, …
The American psychotherapist Almaas speaks of a ‘Flame of Curiosity’. What is meant by this is that awakening curiosity about oneself and the world can be a highly effective technique. Understanding what holds the world (and oneself) together was already a central motive with Faust. Diminished curiosity is often an underestimated symptom of a mild …
Those who see that others are doing something which makes them happy, do not, therefore, believe that they also have this ability. Rather, the success in others is proof for many people that they, themselves, are lacking something important to pursue a particular need. “I am always very pleased when others succeed! But I don’t …