It could also be quite different. This sentence expresses the system theory principle that everything which is recognised and said, is said by ‘someone’. This someone, though, has no privileged, superior view on the world, with which he can recognise all correlations, including his own awareness. Recognising means observing – and thus it creates blindness regarding that which one excludes in order to be able to observe. This (exclusion) is, at the least, one’s own self). Now, one can ask what makes these abstract considerations relevant for counselling. If everything could also be different, because one could observe it differently, it motivates one to engage with the observations of others. Differences enrich, or clarify what the conflict is about. It is also functional to reflect upon one’s own observation motives. It can even be fun to fathom out which unconscious motives have been participating so far in sustaining a certain point of view. In the context of counselling, clients often discover previously unconscious motives for seeing the world and themselves the way they do. This alone brings into motion guiding decisions in the context of acceptance, resonance, personal responsibility and comprehension. And it impedes harsh conflicts, because they are loaded with evaluations.