Closeness Competence
What sort of inner psychological competences are required to pursue one’s need for closeness? One must be able to cope with the pain of saying goodbye, because it always hurts when one must separate for a short or long time, one must be able to yearn, because this feeling can arise in the separation, one must like and wish to reveal one’s shyness, otherwise one cannot share one’s tender sides, and one must be able to tolerate the fear of losing one’s autonomy, otherwise closeness becomes too threatening. If these abilities are impaired, then closeness cannot arise or can only be experienced briefly. Dip into it quickly and then out again!