Every person shapes the present moment with his counterpart in a conscious and unconscious way. The ways and means of how and when pauses arise, when eye contact is sought or broken, how and when questions are avoided, how subjects are avoided, what rhythm the conversation has, what length the contributions have, what details are elaborated upon – all these (and much more) can be used by the counsellor to intervene in the guiding process ‘consciousness’. “Whenever we get an opportunity to talk about the conflict with your colleague, I notice there is not only a different attitude about the issue, but also a clear amount of rivalry, and you immediately change the subject and become rather tight-lipped. If there were some truth in this observation, would that be bad for you? And if so, what could the reason be?”.