Acting without a Distance Desire
When people frustrate the satisfaction of their needs for distance, this often has the following effect upon their actions: mostly they seek symbiotic relationships which are marked by the desire to do everything together. They tend to clinginess and get under the skin of others. They cannot cope well, when people close to them criticise them or simply want to have a bit of peace. They pour out their heart to others (too) quickly and have a tendency not to stick to role appropriate behaviour – i.e. they talk about things which, in their function as manager or parent, they ought not talk about. Usually, they have to occupy themselves with something, because otherwise, they cannot bear the created inner stillness and peace. This can only happen when they feel inwardly connected to people, even when they are at a distance (or do not know closeness).