Self-Destructiveness
Without any doubt one can observe people being destructive, particularly towards themselves. To adhere to dysfunctional behaviour patterns (“I just happen to be very envious and jealous!”, “I am just short-tempered/shy etc.”), and thus to accept negative consequences for oneself and others is wide-spread and acceptable in society. Self-destructive behaviour patterns are an indication that one has not yet discovered one’s own responsibility for the internal processes. To admit to oneself that one, for example, rejects oneself (and this is why one is so afraid of being rejected by others), condemns oneself (and for this reason one has particular fear of being judged or condemned by others), pressures oneself (and therefore one is particularly fearful of enjoying oneself) – all this is not exactly easy to discover within a part of one’s own personality. Without awareness about this destructiveness, without understanding where and why it was originally helpful, without perception of the strength, which is hidden behind such parts of oneself, a fundamental change is not possible. Those who overlook their self-destructiveness to gain a better life or a better functioning in work, will remain on the surface or will fail. That is why a metatheoretical concept is needed, which does not fight or ignore destructive impulses theoretically and practically (such as the so-called positive psychology), but, rather, understands how to effectively work with them.