Recognising Personal Abilities
Those who see that others are doing something which makes them happy, do not, therefore, believe that they also have this ability. Rather, the success in others is proof for many people that they, themselves, are lacking something important to pursue a particular need. “I am always very pleased when others succeed! But I don’t have anything to offer!” The belief in one’s own abilities to pursue a particular need is, thus, a part of regulation competence. However, one can cling to self- images which suggest you remain passive and hope that things will regulate themselves on their own. To make other people responsible for one’s own interests is one way in which such a gap in regulation competence can be unfavourably closed. Usually this does not go well for long. Therefore, understanding one’s ability to deal with a desire is a part of regulation competence!